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MODAvational Notes: Positively Speaking

Posted by on September 21, 2012 | 0 comments

An Introduction from Susan

My commitment is to women being the best they can be on their journey to health and wellness. This means taking care not only of our bodies, but our minds and spirit as well. It is with this in mind that I share these MODAvational Notes. If you would like to receive these messages on a regular basis in your email, please send an email to jen{at}MODAbySofia{dot}com. If you choose to read on, please do so knowing that I am committed to being a positive contribution to you and your life. Enjoy! And please feel free to comment, we would LOVE to hear from you.


Ever find yourself saying can’t sing; can’t dance; I’m terrible at math; my hair is flat and not the right color; I can’t stand my boss… Does this sound like you?

I finally put my foot down! At MODAvate, a center that unites, elevates and celebrates women, we only speak in positive tongue. No more of the above nonsense allowed! Why? Because it causes negativity to be in the air and it breeds very quickly. Misery loves company.

Instead of being so quick to point out all the things we are NOT, let’s take some time to think about all the things we ARE.

Recently I took a strength finder test. Like the author shares, he was determined to become the next Michael Jordan. He practiced shooting hoops for hours and hours and attended basketball camps throughout the year and all summer long. Is he the next Michael Jordan? No.

No matter how much I’d love to be the next Beyoncé, there is no way on earth I will be. I might be able to move like she does – and that’s a big might – and I could probably get my hair to look like hers, but there is no way my voice will ever sound anything like hers. At best, my singing chops should only be heard by three people: me, myself and I. My sweet little theatre performer and gifted singing child, says to me, “No Mommy, please don’t sing,” and I take no offense.

It doesn’t matter if I hire Beyoncé herself to give me voice lessons, it’s never going to happen for me. I know that for sure. What else I know for sure, that I have many talents in other areas that when practiced, shared and made to grow, will create a sense of fulfillment, happiness and joy in my life.

Instead of spending time, energy and money on my shortcomings, I am going to spend my time, energy and money on my strengths. I will only speak in positive tones and use positive words. I will also continue to create my life built on my strengths and surround myself with those who offer strengths in areas that are not my forte.

I invite you to take some time and write a list of all your strengths. Post it where you can see it every day. Practice them, live them, and share them. Live inside who you are versus beating yourself up for who you are not.

Looking forward to hearing from you. Please let me know how this is going.

P.S. I find that turning off the television helps avoid the negative speak, especially the news. If by chance I get 5 minutes to watch the TV, I tune into TLCs What Not to Wear or Food TV. At the very least, these two shows are offering helpful hints that I can put to use in my everyday life.


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